Peace of mind and self

The best way to attain peace of mind? !....

‌To avoid, at any cost, all the crucial and important questions those may rise by the way of being holistically conscious, for the sake of inane gibberish and banalities and thus rendering oneself as insensitive as a starfish or sea aenemone. So, be an edifice of sculpture-like clinical indifference and make dialogues like a tenacious political power monger. What's the use of trying too hard to help the distraught - especially when it calls for some real good hard work. Everyone knows if one's energy is drained out for solving problems one will lose enjoyment!!

The above point of view is the happening, widely accepted and popular one, though the statement might be looked at as somewhat offensive, sort of intended for bleeding somebody. If we look at the matter in a less incisive manner, from a more wide angle point of view, it may be noticed that the problem lies with the nature of self of the subject - if it is independent from the environment where the person gets to pass his life, he or she need not take all that trouble and would remain at peace anyway.

‌Many of the gurus advocate selflessness. Selfless behaviors are often idolized. But this selflessness is a paradox. Every living being who wants to live must have a self. While talking about selflessness we actually mean a self which is absolutely self-reliant, independent and complete in the sense that it can live, mentally, without subscribing to dependence on others.

It is a crying need for the self to be immune to denial, rejection, indifference and suppression of one's expression, to insensitivity and thus to become independent. This is associated with emotional detachment while being fully aware and conscious of others feelings.

Detachment is totally different from indifference. When one is emotionally detached, one is not stimulated to produce the same behavior as the other person, but as said above, as long as the awareness is there, one will feel others' feelings the same. Then there is possibility that one will try and do help others, as per others' need. But by being indifferent one keeps others feelings at bay - while one may be doing well by academic or theoretical efforts towards finding out numerous meanings and implications of others behaviors and actions. But these does not take the observer real close to the cause prompting that particular behavior. And hence, if there is something disturbing in the behavior of the subject, which has potential for disruption of healthy life, it remains undiagnosed - and remains there for emanating sometime in future, causing .... may be upheaval