Peace of mind and self

The best way to attain peace of mind? !....

‌To avoid, at any cost, all the crucial and important questions those may rise by the way of being holistically conscious, for the sake of inane gibberish and banalities and thus rendering oneself as insensitive as a starfish or sea aenemone. So, be an edifice of sculpture-like clinical indifference and make dialogues like a tenacious political power monger. What's the use of trying too hard to help the distraught - especially when it calls for some real good hard work. Everyone knows if one's energy is drained out for solving problems one will lose enjoyment!!

The above point of view is the happening, widely accepted and popular one, though the statement might be looked at as somewhat offensive, sort of intended for bleeding somebody. If we look at the matter in a less incisive manner, from a more wide angle point of view, it may be noticed that the problem lies with the nature of self of the subject - if it is independent from the environment where the person gets to pass his life, he or she need not take all that trouble and would remain at peace anyway.

‌Many of the gurus advocate selflessness. Selfless behaviors are often idolized. But this selflessness is a paradox. Every living being who wants to live must have a self. While talking about selflessness we actually mean a self which is absolutely self-reliant, independent and complete in the sense that it can live, mentally, without subscribing to dependence on others.

It is a crying need for the self to be immune to denial, rejection, indifference and suppression of one's expression, to insensitivity and thus to become independent. This is associated with emotional detachment while being fully aware and conscious of others feelings.

Detachment is totally different from indifference. When one is emotionally detached, one is not stimulated to produce the same behavior as the other person, but as said above, as long as the awareness is there, one will feel others' feelings the same. Then there is possibility that one will try and do help others, as per others' need. But by being indifferent one keeps others feelings at bay - while one may be doing well by academic or theoretical efforts towards finding out numerous meanings and implications of others behaviors and actions. But these does not take the observer real close to the cause prompting that particular behavior. And hence, if there is something disturbing in the behavior of the subject, which has potential for disruption of healthy life, it remains undiagnosed - and remains there for emanating sometime in future, causing .... may be upheaval

A few observations

A few observations:

1 : The contemporary social ways of Bengal largely promote different categories of mountebanks: most important of them are political. No political entity in Bengal envisages the much needed enhancement of the quality of human resources here, which calls for spread of the culture of solid rational thinking, based on education and practice of knowledge, contrasted to groping in the turbidity of superfluous information.

The next important group of such are the businessmen. This class of people are continually trying to make others gobble their fictitiously useful and much talked about products and officiously laden everyone with their garbage of so called services.

These two types are the most sought after in here, by the rest of the population.

Qualities finer than that required for the activities of these classes of people are thought to be largely useless and often irrelevantly redundant, almost frills. Thus focus of an average citizen almost always keeps ideas like altruism and unconditional help out of their rationale, they are not of much help in the power mongering of the political people of here and these were never the favorites for the businessmen.

The culture of the contemporary politics of India at large is about having very, perhaps ultra short term plans for grabbing the seats for three, four or five years - such views have hardly anything to do with making radical enhancements or improvements. This behavior is a parallel to the thinking of a mountebank, who, usually, is not supposed to cater for fine articles. It is not expected of them either that they can offer sustainable long lasting solutions for critical situations.

As for the businessmen, they do not believe in the possibility of existence of any social institution which might not use the involvement of pecuniary matters. Hence they mostly advocate something if it only relates to the barter system. So they, usually, are averse to unconditional deed, even if that helps improve conditions of the society in its entirety. As a justification of such stand on their own part, they say that such actions will not inculcate the value of accountability to the receivers of the benefit, which is true. But this altogether avoids the issue of responsibility, which every member of a society must bear.

Responsibility must be an idea independent of accountability. To put it in a different way, everyone is accountable to be responsible to the society at large. It is the cost for the benefits that one enjoys while living in a society and it must be regarded in the barter system of life in general.

 2. When I face something which is not agreeable, that disturbs me until I can make a mental model of the event with the known prototypes of despicable things. When started thinking why it is so, I found out that it is about my innate desire to make things agreeable to as many as possible. A problem can be solved for good only when it is entirely understood. A wholesome alternative to something disturbing can be chosen only when we can squarely identify it in its entirety. So, whenever I can formulate a framework for the disturbance, which necessarily include the possible causes of the same, it raises a hope within me that things can change some time.

3. Freedom is having as many options of actions as possible at any moment, which must include that of relaxing. Being in a frenzy is being given into something - and that is farthest from being free.
Often one has to be with and assist people in frenzy, so that one can barter moments of freedom.

4. Usually people only think of accumulating and as a means to that end they demand. They put a lot less effort towards fulfilling others demand or creating anything tangible. They put forth their demands without paying any attention whatsoever towards factual reality about what it takes to fulfill their demands.

Common people live in their demands. Right from their childhood they are taught to cling to their original organic tendency towards demanding rather than minding others need.People are usually afraid of facts because facts may dampen their zeal towards making demand by waking up their conscience which may make them feel others requirements, which they are alien to. Facts bring people to an unknown territory which raises within them the feeling of insecurity.